If you’re anything like me, then you may not always find it easy to focus on the positive things in life. Our brains just seem to be wired to be constantly looking out for the worst… (Thanks evolution!)
It seems that 8 things could do well during the course of the day and yet most of us will focus on the one thing that went wrong and didn’t go the way we had planned.
This next recommendation may not always be our first choice when responding to a situation in life, but I feel that it is an EXTREMELY important choice and one that we can make with enough practice.
The beauty is that this health tip can also apply to many other areas of your life as well.
Often when we are experiencing physical discomfort, we have a difficult time thinking about anything else. Our evolutionary minds then go to work and we begin down a dark rabbit hole of thinking about the worse possible outcome for the pain…
“This will never get better.”
“I always have pain.”
“I have a bad neck/back/shoulder etc…”
These are not constructive thoughts and actually TRAIN our brains to believe the stories that we tell it.
Instead of thinking one of the stories above, I recommend switching them up, and putting a more positive spin on them. This is not ignoring the pain, this is simply training your brain to think about the pain in a more constructive way.
So they next time you are experiencing pain, try something like these instead…
“My body is designed to heal.”
(Think about that for a moment and let it really sink in. When you cut your skin or break a bone, your body does all the “magic” healing work and you don’t even have to think about it. It is literally programmed for health.)
“This pain will pass.”
“I have a neck/back/shoulder that is currently in recovery.”
Simple change in the story can have a HUGE impact on the speed and quality of our recovery.
You can also take this idea to another level and begin applying it to other areas of your life.
Again, if you’re anything like me, maybe you get annoyed and defensive around the people on the streets. Especially in New York where there are people EVERYWHERE.
I would often find myself thinking things like…
“Why didn’t that person get out of my way?!?”
“Can’t they see I have a dog?”
“Why are they standing so close to me?”
Walking around the city would often put me in a slightly irritated state…
This low level irritation is only a few short steps away from the feelings of anger.
I would literally be tensing my back while walking around the city and thinking these thoughts.
What’s even more interesting, is that those type of thoughts become so common, that we view them as normal and then hardly even notice when we are thinking them.
Stop and think. Show of hands. How many of you get annoyed while walking around in a crowded place?
The thing is, those people I am passing are not even aware that they are annoying me. They are in their own little bubble just like me, and are very likely thinking similar things about the strangers they are passing.
So lately I have been working really hard to change my internal story around the people I pass on the street.
Many spiritual traditions teach that we are all connected. That we are all one.
Physics is starting to prove that we are all exchanging electrons constantly throughout the day. What we perceive as matter is really just that — a perceptionof energy as a solid object.
Physicists have shown that the atom is primarily empty space.
So now as I walk down the street, full engaged in the idea that we are all one, I have begun to change the stories inside my head as I pass a stranger.
Instead I softly whisper inside my head…
“Peace be with you.”
“The love in me salutes the love in you.”
And so on….
Changing the story from one of attack, to one of love, helps me to release the tension that I was holding in my body when I felt that everyone owed me my rightful place on the sidewalk or subway car. Now instead of cursing them internally I am working to bless them internally.
As I see them as one with me, I begin to recognize that what I give is what I get.
If I get love, it’s because I gave love.
If I get “attacked”, it’s because I was attacking and condemning in my own mind.
I wanted to share this because it really does apply to our bodies too. If I show my body love and compassion, it will give me love and peace in return.
If I attack and condemn my body, it will continue to “attack” me and very often that attack comes in the form of chronic muscular tension leading to pain.
So which one is it going to be? Love or attack?
Would you say that your mind is thinking thoughts of love towards your body and your neighbor, or do you think it is the opposite?
Would you like to talk about it and find out more about which one it could be?
What interests me most as a health provider is our mind states, and how they affect our lives. I enjoy listening to clients and asking questions based on the things they say in hopes of helping them see things in a new light.
This is what really gets me excited about health and helping people!
I truly do believe that we are all one. As I heal myself, I heal the world. As I teach others about healing, they heal not only themselves, but also myself and the world.
Showing ourselves and our neighbors love is the first step towards true peace and happiness on this planet.
“There’s no path to peace ya’ll, PEACE IS THE PATH.”
-Bliss N Eso
A big revelation for me lately, based on everything that I just wrote above, has been that life is more about what you give than what you get.
So I have decided to change how I offer my health coaching sessions. Instead of putting a price tag on coaching sessions, I have decided to offer them at a “pay-what-you-can-afford” rate.
This is a brand new decision as of this week. It is not an attempt to attract more clients, or make more money. It is simply a way of surrendering more to the flow and trusting that everything that needs to happen will happen.
Maybe next time I’ll write some more about trusting and letting go…??? A “pull versus push” kind of vibe….
Please let me know if there is anything I can help you with. I’m here for you. You can reach me via my website drmikemurray.com
Wishing you all the peace and happiness in the world!